While growing up Utkarshica Srivastava witnessed the struggles that her mother has to face managing everything by herself and her dad rarely contributed. She now wants to make her mother happy since she has struggled all her life.
“When I was 5, dad left for a week for work but didn’t come back for six months. We didn’t know how long to wait for him, so maa started stitching clothes for a living; Di and I helped. When dad finally returned, he resumed office as if nothing had happened.
But growing up, he never contributed at home. Maa paid for our education; we still don’t know what dad did with his salary, or if he even earned. Moreover, he’d keep doubting me and Di and say, ‘As girls, you’ll never be able to do anything.’ And we’d say, ‘Watch us.’
We got that fierceness from maa. I remember, I’d excelled in my 8th-grade exams and asked dada for a ₹100 watch. He gave me ₹5 and a kerchief; and gave my cousin the ₹100 and said, ‘Because he’s a boy!’ When I told maa, she bought me the watch and told me to go show it to him; to show him that women are worth it too!
Over time, Maa switched to selling LIC policies, but Di and I knew we had to start contributing too. So we’d embroider clothes and earn ₹2 – our pocket money.
Two days after my boards, I got a job as a research marketer. A month later, I got my first salary– ₹2000! I was so excited, I gave maa the cheque and told her, ‘Now, it’s my treat!’
Soon after I enrolled myself at dance classes– I loved dancing but we couldn’t afford them before. Bit by bit, I started paying telephone bills and buying groceries and saved the rest.
During the first year of graduation, I hosted events–it paid good money. So I’d wake up at 7:30, attend lectures till 1 pm, work till 9 pm, go to dance class and come back home by 12– I loved it!
I even started travelling for work. A few months before graduation, the three of us had saved enough to move out of our chawl. When we asked dad if he wanted to move with us, he said, ‘no’. Finally, it would be just us. Soon after, I got a full-time job in sales at a cyber security company.
At work, I was questioned a lot as I was the only woman in the room. Once, my CEO asked, ‘Where do you see yourself in 2 years?’ I told him, ‘Running the international wing.’ He said I was too ambitious!
But guess what, 2 years later, that’s exactly what I’m doing! Last month, I even bought us a house! I’ve been saving for 4 years and managed to take out a loan–it’s high time we have a place we can call ‘home’.
Maa still works, but now she runs an NGO to empower victims of domestic abuse. Over the years, Di and I had promised ourselves that we wouldn’t take a single penny from her, and so far we haven’t. After everything she’s done for us, that’s the least we can do. A house and next up, a world trip.”
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