My Story: Getting Married At 20 I Realised That Everything Changes, Your Thinking Too
August 8th, 2016
“I come across a lot of posts and articles on girls revolting against getting married at an early age and yes, I used to be one of them. But, I ended up marrying in my early 20s (an arranged marriage) and now, when people ask me “Why?” I say “Why not?” “What’s wrong?”. After all, it’s not a bad idea to get hitched when you are young.
One thing that I realized from my own experience was that getting married early does not kill any of your dreams. In fact, if your partner is supportive and motivating, it gives you a greater determination to pursue your dreams and build your career. The best part is that you can be all crazy and nobody expects anything from you since you are very young and you get all the pampering and care in the world.
You will be treated like the princess you always dreamt of being. You are not expected to act matured or responsible all the time and it is definitely an advantage. And trust me on this, marrying at an early age does not change things a lot. Your early 20s are the time when you plan things for your life and set your goals and since you are married, you always have your partner involved in all your plans and adventures of life, which is a good thing compared to people getting married at a later age because they will have to compromise a lot and alter their plans.
When it comes to me, I’ve had so many of my ‘first experiences’ after marriage, for eg. my first international trip, my first deep-sea dive, my first experience in the snow and the list goes on and I am so glad that my husband was a part of all this.
According to a research, people who have married at an early age, have had a very successful marriage and I am sure that is true because when you meet somebody at a very young age and you have spent a lot of time together the bond and the connection is very strong. You are growing up learning each others’ likes and dislikes, making love to each other, doing all crazy things together and it’s lot more fun than it sounds. For a kind of relationship where there’s unconditional love and a selflessness, early marriages definitely help.
I am sure every girl dreams of her future husband but I am growing up living my dreams with my husband which is a wonderful thing. For people who think you can’t be independent after your marriage and can’t do things that you like, I don’t agree with it at all. I don’t think your marital status should stop you from achieving what you want. There are so many successful women around the world and most out of them are all married.
Marriage is a relationship that is bound by love and understanding. I strongly believe in the power of love and love has no age limits, no matter how young you are if you can love your better half with all your heart there is no stopping you from fulfilling your dreams and living each others’ dreams and being one another’s strength in times of fall and living a life full of happiness, fun and adventure.”
Submitted By :- Akruthi Shetty