My Story: “She’s Been ‘Plus-Size’ Since She Was A Child, But She’s Never Let It Get To Her”
From our friends atHumans Of Bombay
September 23rd, 2019 / 11:07 AM
“From the time I’ve met her, she’s been one person that stands for everything ‘equal’. She’s been ‘plus-size’ since she was a child, but she’s never let it get to her — a lot of times she’s been called out for being ‘fat’. But not once has she let that deter her. When I met her in college, I realised that she was one of the most confident woman I’d ever come across. She didn’t care who thought what, she did exactly what she wanted to. She loved fashion, so she’d never shy away from wearing what she wanted to. She was on the dance team, and just about took part in most college activities!
As we started hanging out together more, she realised that I’d started to like her — and somewhere she felt the same. So even though there was no label, we both knew what we had. But it didn’t take long, before we started dating. Life with her was so much fun — we’d spend the whole day together and even sneak out to meet in the night. I remember even stealing my cousin’s bike, just because she loved to go on long drives at night!
With her, life just seemed so uncomplicated, I started feeling free and learnt to listen to my heart. So I knew that I didn’t want to lose her, and wanted her in my life forever!
One day, I booked an entire floor of a restaurant, with just one table in the centre, and decorated it with rose petals. When she entered, I got down on one knee — she was speechless & after a few seconds, said ‘Yes!’
We decided to have a wedding that would be a testament to breaking societal stereotypes and celebrating our individuality! We got married in 3 different places, one was in my hometown in Rajasthan, one was in Mumbai, and then one was in her hometown, Bangalore. We both arrived at the wedding riding a horse! There was no ‘giving away the bride’, and we had the priest tweak the vows so that the husband doesn’t have to be ‘supreme’ but is on par with the wife! She didn’t put sindoor or wear a ‘mangalsutra’ — we got ourselves inked on our ring fingers!
We’ve been with each other for over 12 years now, and after getting married we’re living with her parents so that she can be closer to home & until we can afford our own place! With every stereotype we break, and our own rules that we create — I’m learning the true meaning of living life, fearlessly with her. She taught me how to love unconditionally, how to step out of the bounds and just enjoy once in a while — we’re building our own world, one where we always lift each other up.”
“From the time I’ve met her, she’s been one person that stands for everything ‘equal’. She’s been ‘plus-size’ since she…
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