“Last Wednesday morning, my wife Prathibha had severe pain in her lower abdomen and we went to a renowned hospital where we were directed to the general surgeon. The usual drill followed where she was subjected to blood and urine test and ultrasound (Rs. 4,500). The doctors informed us that they found some fluid in her abdomen and took her for CT scan (Rs. 8,000). It was evening by now and the doctors got back saying the same that some fluid was found in her upper abdomen and it was causing infection leading to pain, and they also found pelvic inflammation that needed to be further investigated. They said a laparoscopic surgery was needed to remove the fluid as medicines would not help and that sample to be send to lab for further diagnosis. The insurance guy steps in with estimates of Rs. 75,000 and Rs. 90,000 depending on the room we choose.
Finally, on advice from our parents, we decided to take a second opinion though the doctors at the hospital kept persuading us to go ahead with the surgery which they planned to do first thing the next morning, stating that they knew better and things would aggravate if delayed. However after further consideration, we decided to take a second opinion and visited a gynecologist the next day. It turned out that it was nothing serious and the fluid they kept referring to was blood clots that is formed in some cases post ovulation, and it heals on its own without any medication. Prathibha is doing fine now.
I would have left the whole incident behind happy that nothing was serious until I learned later that there was no need to schedule a surgery in such haste when she had no fever and the pain in fact went down rather than aggravating as the day progressed, which suggests that they should have observed a bit further and be 100% sure before taking such decisions. It seems the intention was just to make money out of our ignorance and the fact that we work in IT sector with healthy salaries and medical insurances. It makes me wonder if these doctors have targets to meet and practicing medicine is just business. Every time I think of it, the fact that these doctors (don’t intend to generalize) wouldn’t mind cutting someone open to make some money fills me with rage and I wish there are authorities to look into such cases and take necessary action as it is someone else’s life at stake. “
The Logical Indian requests our community members to always take 2nd opinion or if the case is really worrying then more opinions, it is very important to take second and third opinion where cutting of our body is the option. We want to emphasise that the intention of the post is not to malign doctors, we just want to make our community members aware of malpractices few of the doctors do.
Women empowerment is one of the most important words of the present times. It is not a mere phrase but it rather represents a movement, which has been pending for the longest time. However, many have a misconception that educating women, “letting” them work, etc. is all that women empowerment is all about. However, the concept of women empowerment is more of an umbrella term. It intends to involve society as a whole, including men.
We always encourage and applaud a woman who successfully balances both work life and her household. But won’t it be easy for that woman if the load of the work is shared? We see that in our society a woman’s primary role is seen as that of a homemaker. At the same time, her personal likes, aspirations, and dreams are forced to be put on the backburner because of the undue expectation that she has to single handedly manage the household while balancing her career. To give credit where it is due, the times are changing. Men and women of the house are increasingly sharing the workload. However, one can also not turn a blind to the fact that a lot more still needs to be done.
Driving home the same concept, popular brand Ariel has come up with brilliant communication.
The video shows a mother speaking to her married daughter over the phone, all whilst cleaning the mess her son has created. She is absolutely heartbroken when her daughter says that she plans to quit her job since juggling both a demanding job and her household has become too overwhelming. It is during this time that she realises that while she and her husband as parents left no stone unturned to give an all-round upbringing to their daughter, they somewhere forgot to teach their son some basic life skills like cooking and doing laundry so that they grow out to be equally responsible in doing household chores. This is not a story of just one family, but of families across the country. These are some things which everyone must know, not for any other reason, but simply because these are basic tasks which are absolutely essential to survive. And, they make you capable to be equal partners tomorrow!
As Ariel raises an important question-is household work only a woman’s job? We need to ask ourselves the same question. A recent study revealed that the unpaid work done by women around the world amounted to 43 times the annual turnover of Apple Inc. It is high time we share the load and change the narrative that household work is the “duty” of a woman. As the video shows, contributing to the household work is not only a daughter’s work, but the son must contribute his bit too. It is also important for the parents to instil a sense of responsibility in their children, irrespective of their gender so that at any juncture of their lives, they are not completely dependent on another person for basic tasks like these. Ariel has been consistently driving this message and addressing the inequality within households since 2015. The Logical Indian applauds Ariel for coming up with such a brilliant video for depicting such an important concept.